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If you are gluten and dairy free, your next trip to Walt Disney World just got a lot easier.  Sarah Norris of Gluten Free and Dairy Free at WDW, has contributed over 200 gluten and dairy free dish reviews to YoDish.  Check out the official news release from YoDish and even more info on the Gluten Free Dairy Free at WDW blog.

Sarah is an expert on dining with restrictions, especially at Disney.  Her blog is full of useful information on dining at Disney and we are thrilled to offer quick access to her reviews on the go, via YoDish.  Gluten Free Dairy Free at WDW is a valuable resource to anyone who will be dining at Disney with gluten and dairy allergies, as well as other restrictions which she sometimes is able to address in restaurant reviews on her blog.

YoDish is all about community.  Dining out with a restricted diet can be isolating and difficult, even dangerous.  There is so much leg work to be done in order to visit a restaurant for the first time with a restriction.  Collaborations, such as these, go a long way to eliminate some of the leg work, eliminate unwelcome surprises, and to make any dining experience more successful and enjoyable.  By seeing exactly what a modified dish might look like and reading a brief description of a meal, such as you will see in Sarah Norris’s reviews, the doors are opened for a better dining experience.  When you open the app, it will show you reviews that fit your dining profile based on proximity to where you are.  Here are a few of the GF/DF at WDW dish reviews that you will find on YoDish.

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How to Crush a Food Allergy Mom: A Tutorial

This is an easy to follow tutorial for how to crush a food allergy mom.  I’m offering the top 5 most crushing blows I have heard from other parents regarding my food allergic daughter or as commentaries on food allergies, knowing I have a food allergic daughter.  I know these work because I myself have been crushed by them.  Truthfully, you don’t need to follow each step.  Just pick your favorite and it will probably get the job done.  Of course, the more you use, the deeper the crushing.  Some of these have been said directly to me or in front of me.  Others were passed along second hand.  Either method seems effective.  Let’s get started.

Top 5 phrases for crushing a food allergy mom:

5)  “My child’s food preferences are as important as your child’s.”

Why it works:  This not only shows that you consider avoiding allergens to be a choice rather than a necessity, it also shows that overprotective food allergy mom that the effects of eating something other than cheese or peanut butter for a snack or meal are every bit as damaging as the effects of exposing her child to potentially “life threatening” allergens.  Just because the snack could kill her child, doesn’t mean yours shouldn’t eat it.  It’s not like kids ever transfer food particles around the classroom or playground.  If your kid NEEDS these snacks, other kids just need to deal with it.  Its not YOUR responsibility to keep her child safe at school.  She just wants everyone else to do her job for her.  (Last line was borrowed from a particularly fed up mother who was tired of the food allergy moms relying on others.)

4)  “If it’s that severe, you should just homeschool.”

Why it works:  This is the best way to show that food allergy mom that her child has no right to public education if they can’t tolerate being around your child’s favorite foods.  Why should THAT child even be here if everyone else has to change the way they pack lunches?  If his food allergy is that severe, he should just dig a hole and never climb out of it.  That will keep him safe for sure and nobody else will have to worry about it.  You know that if it were your child, you would just abandon all hopes and dreams for their future and change the plan.  After all, it’s not like they will EVER be able to function normally anyway, so why even bother trying to exercise options that should be reserved for “normal” parents?

3)  “Food allergies are not real.  They are made up by attention seeking parents.”

Why it works:  This works for two reasons.  It shows that the parent is to blame for the condition, while also pointing out the inauthenticity of food allergies.  You need to show these mothers that they can’t pull the wool over your eyes.  As if contact with a smear of ranch dressing could really KILL a child with an egg allergy.  What kind of a dimwit does she take you for?  Certainly it would just be a mild rash or a tummy ache.  Those who DO suffer breathing difficulties, anaphylaxis, and even heart attacks following ingestion probably only do so because their parents have caused such anxiety about everything the child eats.  Those parents should be ashamed of themselves.  After all, if you don’t fully understand a disease, it probably doesn’t exist.

2)  “Ick.  I don’t know how you can eat that stuff.”

Why it works:  This is a great one.  You don’t have to actually express disbelief in the food allergy to get this jab in.  After working for her child’s entire life to find/create safe alternatives to the foods your kids enjoy without a second thought, you can use the food allergy mom’s own efforts to crush both her and the child.  Chances are, she has convinced her child that their alternative is every bit as tasty as what your kids are eating.  She might even believe it’s true.  Pffffffffft.  Can you imagine?  Be sure you say it in front of the child, so the mother HAS to address it with them and to be sure they won’t feel so satisfied with their alternative in the future.  Maybe if we take away the acceptance of alternatives, she’ll drop the ridiculous charade.

1)  “Maybe it’s just nature’s way of weeding out the weak.”

Why it works:  This one hits hard in a totally different way.  With this one, you can admit that perhaps exposure to the allergen would actually kill her child.  The fact is, who cares?  Is she is so full of herself that she thinks the loss of such a small percentage of the population would impact us?  These children are obviously defective anyway.  Maybe if her child dies from an exposure to their allergen it wouldn’t be the worst thing in the world.  I heard it put best, “maybe if we just all turn our heads for about 5 years, the whole food allergy problem will just fix itself.”

There you have it.  Just put on your pleasant parent face and deliver any or all of these lines in a sweet voice.  Chances are, nobody will stand up for her, and you will have successfully crushed a food allergy mom.  Honestly, there will be nothing she can say or do, so you needn’t worry about it coming back to you.  She’s going to have to maintain her focus on food and she really can’t afford to make any enemies.  She really can’t even react because she’s not going to want to bring any more attention to it in front of her child, who is already likely teetering on the edge of being a social outcast.  After all, food is central to all social events.  The most she can do is go home a cry about it after the kids are in bed.  Pathetic!

If you’re not interested in actually crushing her, but just want a few little digs to let her know you truly don’t understand or agree with her ways.  These are good to keep in your back pocket and slip into conversations with food allergy mom as needed…

-That’s a little over the top. (to be used for any precaution she takes)

-It’s too dangerous for the non-allergic children to have an Epipen in the classroom.

-I feel so sorry for your other kids because they have to live with this.

-Since there is likely a genetic component, I guess it was a tough decision to have more kids.

Happy Crushing!

Just remember this.  If you ever change your mind and heart, there are ways to help rebuild some of the rubble others have left behind.  Here are a few things people have said to me that make my heart feel fuller just thinking about them.

5)  “I would be doing the same thing if it were my child.”

4)  “These precautions are really not hard.  Anyway, it’s worth it to keep every child safe and included.”

3)  “I would like to pack a completely safe lunch/snack so our kids can play together without you having to worry.  What are some good food ideas?”

2)  “I just wanted to give you plenty of notice that I plan to bring in a treat for my child’s birthday.”  (followed by details of what they will be bringing so I can provide a comparable safe treat.)

and the biggest, best, most delightful way to build up ANY parent…

1)  “I LOVE your child.”  (End it right there.  This should not be followed by “but…”)

We’re Up To Something: The Unveiling!!!

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People often ask what we are up to these days or what exactly we’re doing with ourselves.  Justin and I are collaborating our efforts for the first time in an attempt to create something together.  Actually, we have three kids, so maybe not for the first time.  Nonetheless, here is the backstory…  [hazey fade in to three years ago]

In the spring of 2011, we went on a nice family vacation to Key West, just the three of us.  I was pregnant with our second daughter.  We had already been through our big dining out scare and had learned a lot about how to find safe meals in restaurants.  We knew all about asking for allergen menus and talking to managers.  We also knew that chain restaurants were more likely to have specific allergen information available.  We got a room with a kitchenette so we could put together safe breakfasts and snacks, but we didn’t worry too much about finding safe meals.

Elena had just turned 2 years old.  On our first night at our destination, we decided to go out for dinner.  We hadn’t had a lot of time for call aheads, so we decided to go to a chain restaurant with an allergen menu.  We looked up the menu online before we left the room, picked out a few options, then headed to the restaurant.  We spoke with a manager and they brought us the print out of the allergen menu.  Immediately we realized the info was different from what we had seen online.  Uh oh.  It appeared that the things we had chosen were either not on this menu at all, or were listed as unsafe for Elena’s allergens.  After reviewing the menu with the manager, we determined she could safely have steamed broccoli and italian dressing.  That was all.  Obviously, we had to leave.  She was melting down and we drove around looking for another option.  We were all pretty hungry by this point.  We eventually found a grocery store and just went in to get something we could eat while having hunger induced meltdowns and tantrums in the aisles.  After all, I was pregnant.  We left with a few odds and ends and went back to the room to put together a terribly disappointing dinner.  There had to be a better way.

[Not so hazey jump back to today] My special effects are pretty low tech.

One problem is that it takes a lot of time to read allergen menus when you have more than one allergen to consider.  We are usually handed four separate menus, one for each allergen, and we have to cross reference to find something that is labeled safe on all four.  Sometimes we sit and read for quite a while before we complete the puzzle, just to find that nothing is safe for her.  We had to figure out something better.

Initially our only goal was to solve the problem of puzzling through the menus to find a safe dish.  Our solution was allergenmenu.  We created a tool that would do the work for you.  The idea is that you input your profile, based on your allergens, and it sorts through the menus for you and tells you which dishes fit your restrictions at restaurants near you.  It returns actual menu items, based on the information provided by the restaurants, so you know what your options are before you step in the door.

Then we realized we needed more information.  We wanted specifics.  We didn’t just want to know what the corporation says they can make without these ingredients.  We want to know if the servers and managers demonstrate competence with food allergies.  We want to know how willing they are to take extreme precaution.  We want to know what modifications can be made to dishes to make them safe.  Most importantly, we want to know if the food is good.  Every time we actually visit a restaurant, we leave with more information than we could ever gain through researching online.  We want that level of information without having to visit to get it.  We need a tool where everyone can review and rate what they are eating in restaurants.  I only want to see the dishes that are safe for us and I want to know details about the location I’m considering visiting.  This is the beginning of Noshed It.

Noshed It is a free iPhone app that addresses these more detailed needs.  Rather than compiling information provided by the corporations alone, it compiles reviews from actual diners from specific visits.  I review what we eat and if a dish I reviewed fits the restrictions you indicated in your profile, you will see what I had to say about the food, the service, and exactly how I ordered.  This is not only for those with food allergies.  It’s also for vegetarians, vegans, and gluten free dietary restrictions.

We have been using the app for several months now and love that all of our experiences are documented to look back on.  We know exactly how we modified our dishes to make them safe and whether or not the food was good.  We still use all of the same precautions as always, such as speaking with a manager, checking ingredients, and asking for clean careful preparation, but now we have a huge advantage when we’re eating out.  Based on the reviews other people have submitted, we have found several safe meals for Elena in our own home town that we did not know about and might never have found.

To review a meal, you just snap a photo with your phone, then review right away or save it for later.  It’s very simple.  Sometimes we start chowing down before we take a photo.  No problem.  Reviews can be written without a photo as well.  We have even been known to use a photo of a half eaten dish.  Anything goes.   Follow these links to see some actual reviews on Noshed It.

Kyle Dine’s Chipotle Review

Emily’s Salsarita’s Review

We have noticed a trend among people living with food allergies.  There is a question that pops up on message boards, facebook pages, group sites, and all over search engines.  We constantly see people asking and answering the same question over and over.  “What/where do you eat in X city with an X allergy?”  Everypone is seeking the same kind of answers we were seeking.  They don’t just want to know what the allergen information on the website indicates.  They want to know where other people with similar restrictions have eaten successfully.  They want to know what they ate and how the management handled allergies.  They want to know exactly how others are ordering.  Wouldn’t it be nice if all of those answers were compiled in one place with all of the details and ratings?  It might have saved us an ER visit when we were first learning to navigate food allergies.

So this is what we’re doing now.  After much soul searching, Justin left his corporate job of 9 years, which he loved, and we are focused on creating tools that will lessen the burden of living with dietary restrictions.  Hopefully Elena will never have to go through the challenges we have faced in finding meals for her when she’s out navigating the world on her own with food allergies as an adult….or even scarier, a teenager (gulp).  She will have these tools to help make it easier to be safe and to live a normal life.

But that was all too simple.  For a few reasons, which I won’t go into, we have decided to change the name of Noshed It.  By the end of the month, Noshed it will become….drum roll……………………..wait for it……………………….. YoDish!!!

(Download the app on your iPhone, iPad, or iPod.  Did I mention, it’s FREE?)

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We are so excited to continue rating our meals and to see what others add to YoDish.  Go ahead and start dishing your favorites.  Actually, dish the meals you have hated as well.  Knowing what to avoid is every bit as important as knowing what to nosh.  (See what I did there?)  Let us know what you think and how we can make it better.  Your feedback will help us build a tool that will change dining out with food restrictions.  Our hope is that the next generation of food allergic individuals will have it easy.  Come on!  What are you waiting for?  YoDish!